Here are some answers and promises that God has given me over the years. These are a few thoughts based on scripture that transformed my perspective and my thinking so I could do this well.
- God’s word is everything, it is sovereign and it is the breath of life, it is trustworthy. John 6:63 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is no help at all. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life. Luke 8:11 – Now the parable is this: the seed is the word of God. A seed sprouts life, let the word of God come alive in you and bear God fruit. Let your roots find their nourishment in the streams of living water and ask God to prepare your heart, to make it fertile, to make it ready to absorb the word of God.
- The truth and good news is you are NOT alone, ever! Matthew 28:20 tells us, “teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” and Deuteronomy 31:6 asserts “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
- You are not that smart. Sounds harsh but it is true, the sooner we come to terms with that and surrender our thoughts and desires to God, the less burdened we are. After all, our wisdom is foolishness to him. Proverbs 18:1 Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment. Seek the company and embrace of God-fearing people who live their lives out for God, seek accountability and advice from such people.
- We will not be shaken. John 16:33 “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” What was true for King David in Psalm 23 is true for you and I, “even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, You are with me”.
- JESUS is the truest and best friend there is. “A man who has friends must himself be friendly,[b]But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” I prayed to God to show me how to love and care for others. It started with putting others needs before mine and praying for them tirelessly. Firstly pray for God to fill you up to a point of overflow so you can pour into the life of others. In my experience, the more I sought God, the more I was knowledgeable and had understanding to make a positive impact in people’s lives. Now it doesn’t mean I am perfect or that I have gotten the whole picture, not at all. 1 Corinthians 13, reminds us that we now see a blurry image but at the return of Christ we will see clearly. God knows the people I love and care for more than I can ever imagine, he created them, so I just ask Him to show me how to relate to and serve each individual. And there are moments where I am called to show up for a friend, to listen, to just be there and it took nothing out of me. I encourage you to just show up for your friend even when you don’t have the words to say or are struggling yourself. Two heads are better than one, right?! JESUS is the friend who sticks closer than a brother. I think of David who talked of being despised as an infant, was overlooked by his father Jesse, belittled by his older brother Eliab, mocked by his wife Michal, hated by his Son Absalom, yet, He found a brother in his friend Jonathan. Although, Jonathan couldn’t always be around; but you know who is? Jesus. Matthew 19:29 -And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life. So if you look around you and find no one to be there or that those around have failed you in the same way you have disappointed in the past, well take heart, JESUS NEVER FAILS.
- Take a trip down memory lane – If for whatever reason, you cannot see the good that God is doing in your life and everything is bleak; remember how far the Lord has brought you. Paul, whether in need or in having plenty, learned to be content, he could do all things through Christ who strengthened him. Know the God you serve, once again that happens through scripture and through your life as you see how God has delivered you from one trial to the next and through the lives and testimonies of others. Therefore, approach God’s throne with confidence, gratefulness and contentment.
- God is kind. Ask for God’s mercy when you are undergoing the consequences of your sin or disobedience. Yes, because we are His disciples, He disciplines; because we are His children, He disciplines us for our own good. However, He is merciful, gracious and compassionate. Habakuk 3:2, O Lord, I have heard the report of you, and your work, O Lord, do I fear. In the midst of the years revive it; in the midst of the years make it known; in wrath remember mercy.
- Ask for more. James 1:5-6.If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.
Hope this helps